How Not to Destroy Your Marriage: 8 Tips for Staying a Happy Couple

images“All marriages are happy. It’s the living together afterward that causes all the trouble”.  -Raymond Hull

So how do you make your marriage work? Or do you just blindly hope it’ll take care of itself?

Think of a hot, successful date with someone you’re attracted to. You have fun, great conversation and more sexual chemistry than a warehouse full of pheromones. You don’t have to “work at” the date because it’s self sustaining. It runs as smoothly as the gliding hand of a classical guitar maestro and you can’t wait for another rendition.

But marriage, or any long term relationship; well that’s a whole other caboodle.

If we’re not careful, marriage can deteriorate into little more than a torturous assault course; littered with routine boredoms, frustrations and resentments. Couple all that with external pressures and sometimes marriage feels not worth the effort. But there are major benefits to being hitched or committed, other than just a beneficial tax regime.

Healthy marriage; healthy people

Being happily married bestows heaps of health benefits. You might be forgiven for thinking that if you’re married you don’t live longer it just seems like it but, no, a good marriage really can help you clock up more years (1) and married people are happier (2) even though they don’t always look it from the outside.

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A note to the frustrated Dreamer- Tyler Perry

215632_10151209302083268_335518449_nTHIS IS FOR FRUSTRATED DREAMERS

I was driving in to work this morning and I started thinking about all the days I dreaded going to work. I was so sick of it… the job, my boss, the people I worked with, the traffic… I would wake up angry every morning. I didn’t want to deal with the crap of the job, but I was forced to go. I had been homeless, I was broke, living paycheck to hopefully the next paycheck. I couldn’t take a day off for fear I would get fired. I was just frustrated. I thought I hated my life and the job.

It was so aggravating because God had placed all these dreams and hopes in my soul and mind and I had no idea how they were going to come to pass. To have a dream of being something better and living better than the way I was at that moment and to not see a way of getting there felt like death to me. I thought, “Dear God, why would you give me so much hope and not make a way?” But what I learned through prayer was, with no path in front of you and no road map… this is where true faith begins. With faith I realized that I wasn’t frustrated with my life or the job, I was frustrated because I was a person who had dreams for myself, a person who had visions for my life and I wasn’t living it. Have you ever been there, where you felt so strongly that there was more to this life than what you see in front of you?

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“WHEN LOVE STANDS”! ~ Truly Faithful ~ OEV

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This is one of those Random post which might not be in consonance with the business theme of this blog but which I saw and felt might heal a home, For me a good home is what makes a successful man. I pray it touches you the way it touched me;

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In 2009 when my husband and I were separated and contemplating divorce, I was filled with so much hostility that it was literally impossible for me to reconcile with him. And if you think I was hostile, he was even more hostile towards me as he really thought it was over. At this point, our parents knew and it didn’t matter that I was three months pregnant with our son either. Our minds were made up and to us that was the last word, BUT LOVE WAS PREPARING TO STAND!

One day while praying, I knew I had to pray for my husband even though I honestly did not want to. The Lord had been dealing with me about praying for him even though I believed we were through. So as I begin to pray FOR him, something started happening inside of me. Walls started to crumble. Walls that had been built on anger, hostility, hurt and more. Walls I’d built to protect myself from being hurt ever again because I felt that he hurt me just as he felt that I had hurt him. I started crying hard while praying for him. I prayed that the Lord would touch my husband’s heart and mind and for the Lord to protect him. Then suddenly I begin to ask God to restore my marriage. It was the first real prayer I had prayed for my husband and my marriage in months. MONTHS do you hear me? The very reason why our marriage was in the shape that it was in, was because no one was praying.

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VALENTINE’S DAY-a two way Street

A friend and I were talking about spouses, dating and gift giving when the conversation turned to february 14.

“why is it that women always seem to think that Valentine’s day is only about them?” he asked.

“what do you mean?” I responded. Of course I knew.

“Valentines day is about celebrating love, but women seem to think it’s about men buying them jewelries, flowers and candy. It’s a two-way street, but women don’t see it that way.”

I protested and he conceeded he really meant “most” women, not “all” women. but this caring, sensitive man was adamant in his view that men get short-changed when it comes to cupid’s big day.

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